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Jennifer Lopez's ex-husband Ojani Noa hits back at her statements on love: 'You decided to lie'


Lopez has been married four times. Ojani Noa was her first husband, from 1997 to 1998


Jennifer Lopez's ex-husband Ojani Noa hits back at Lopez's statements on love: 'You decided to lie'© WireImage
Maria LoretoSenior Writer
OCTOBER 20, 2025 1:16 PM EDT

Jennifer Lopez recently opened up in an interview, discussing her marriages and her love life. In an interview with Howard Stern, Lopez revealed that she didn't know if she'd ever been "truly loved." 

"What I learned is it's not that I'm not lovable," she said, "It's that they're not capable." Lopez's first husband, Ojani Noa, had some thoughts regarding that loaded statement, sharing his feelings on social media.

JLo debuted a brand-new hairstyle just in time for fall, and her makeup also leaned heavily into a distinctly ’90s lip combo.© Cindy Ord
Lopez opened up about her love life on 'The Howard Stern Show'

Ojani shared a lengthy rant on an Instagram post, sharing blocks of text over an image depicting some ocean waves. "This is in reference about the recent interview on The Howard Stern Show, where my ex-wife Jennifer Lopez said that she had 'never been loved or capable,'" he wrote.  

"Hahaha... let me just say. Stop putting us down. Stop putting me down with your victim card. The problem is not us. Not me. The problem is you. You're the one who couldn't keep it in your pants. You have been loved a few times. You have been married 4 times. And have had countless relationships in between. You have had good relationships... me, for example," he wrote, referencing Lopez's marriage to Cris Judd, Marc Anthony, and Ben Affleck.

Jennifer Lopez's ex-husband Ojani Noa hits back at Lopez's statements on love: 'You decided to lie'© WireImage
Ojani Noa aired his complaints on an Instagram post

Noa then proceeded to reveal that he was in love with Lopez and that he uprooted his life to be with her. "I'm an amazing loving person, great human being. Honest, faithful to you, never lied, never misbehaved, never CHEATED on you. I'm too good of a man for you..."

He listed out some of his issues with Lopez, claiming that she chose "fame and fortune" instead of their relationship. "You decided to lie, to cheat in me and even though I stayed. I even tried to keep the marriage going and alive," he wrote.

"Tell the truth for once."

Ojani Noa's Instagram's ramble© @ojaninoa1
Ojani Noa's Instagram's ramble

Details about Lopez and Noa's brief relationship

Lopez and Noa met in the late '90s at Gloria Estefan's restaurant in Miami, where he worked as a waiter. At the time, Lopez was just starting her Hollywood career, having a few roles in films like "Money Train" and "Jack." 

The pair married in 1997, the same year that Lopez's breakthrough movie, "Selena." The role completely changed Lopez's life, making her an international figure and the first Latina to win a million dollars for a film. She was also nominated for the Golden Globes

Noa and Lopez divorced 11 months after their wedding. While she rarely addresses the relationship, Noa often comments about her love life, including her divorce from Ben Affleck.

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez© Michael Buckner/Golden Globes 20
Noa has often commented on Lopez's relationships, sharing his thoughts about her breakups with Ben Affleck and Alex Rodriguez

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