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4. TAKE CHARGE.
One of the scariest changes Shonda made was in relation to her health, she says. Over the years, as she began shutting down emotionally, the pounds began piling on. But after being too embarrassed to request a seat-belt extender on a recent flight, the writer knew it was time for a change and has since lost more than 115 pounds.

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5. MAKE TIME FOR PLAY.
Nothing, according to Shonda, lights up her world more than the sight of her three kids — but as a busy mom she found herself unable to commit to quality family time that is until she learned to say "yes" to playtime. “Making it a steadfast rule allows me to peel away some of the work pressure,” she explains. “To know I ‘don’t have a choice’ means I don’t feel any guilt.”

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